Today is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day. A day to remember all the children who ‘might have been’ and honor the pain of the mothers and fathers who lost dreams. I had the honor and opportunity to share my story with Fruitful Fertility in order to help raise awareness about recurrent pregnancy loss. Fruitful Fertility is a 1:1 mentoring service for women dealing with infertility. They match women with mentors who’ve had similar experiences. […]
October is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month. This means there are a lot of pregnancy loss facts circling the internet and a lot of women sharing personal stories of miscarriage and stillbirth on social media. The stories are often heartbreaking. But the sharing of them is wonderful. As more women talk about their experience, the stigma around miscarriage lessens. As the general public becomes more aware of the burden of pregnancy loss, better support […]
September is PCOS Awareness Month, so I want to take the opportunity to do a little PCOS PSA. (Although, I’ve never approached a post in this way before, so feel free to let me know if it’s useful.) PCOS stands for “polycystic ovary syndrome” or “polycystic ovarian syndrome.” It is: a common health problem caused by an imbalance of reproductive hormones. The hormonal imbalance creates problems in the ovaries. With PCOS, the egg may not develop as […]
It is impossible to fully address the topic of infertility without talking about sex. But if I have sometimes been ashamed to discuss my fertility challenges, I have been absolutely loath to bring up its impact on my sex life. Sharing this aspect of myself feels like inviting spectators into my bedroom to examine the sheets. Yet it cannot be ignored. Miscarriage and infertility had a material impact on my sex life. I don’t believe […]
When I’m being melodramatic, I like to say that my sister saved my life. In actuality, I think she saved my sanity. I’m quite certain I would have gone into a deep depression after my second miscarriage had it not been for my sister. My second loss was a psychological turning point for me. My first loss, while devastating, was possible to rationalize. It was common, a likely genetic aberration, no cause for concern. The […]
Hello again. It’s been several weeks since I posted. There are some very simple explanations for this, as well as reasons which are harder to articulate. My July was spent with family. First in Chicago, visiting my mom, my sister, my niece and nephews, both my grandparents, and some extended family; then driving cross-country to Seattle with my dad. In our current socio-political environment personal travel is viewed with a lot of judgement. While I […]
Continuing to own my story this week by talking about my third miscarriage.
This week I’ve been thinking a lot about personal choice. Specifically, the incongruousness between emotions and principles that cause us to make unexpected choices. Many of us spend far too much time in our head worrying about the future – imagining all the possible situations we might find ourselves in and how we would respond. This gives us the illusion of control. We feel prepared. There’s a quote by French philosopher Michel de Montaigne […]
With Father’s Day this weekend, I wanted to take the opportunity to talk about my other half. The partner to my Misbehaving Uterus: the Sad Sack, the Bad Balls, the Naughty Nuts (thanks, KK for your clever naming, I wouldn’t have gotten here on my own!) The male experience of miscarriage is so often overlooked. It’s always the woman’s account that’s reported on in the news. It’s the woman who receives the majority of our […]
It’s hard not to be overwhelmed by the current state of our nation. I’ve been trying to process my own feelings all week. I do not consider myself an appropriate authority to discuss race relations, and I didn’t start this blog to discuss current events. But I can talk about grief. I understand grief. And I think that George Floyd’s death and the resulting protests are emblematic of the profound grief being experienced by many […]
